Identify Your Why
When starting something new, it is a good idea to ask yourself why.
When you are clear on your why, you are setting a stronger foundation to stop you from giving up when things get a bit hard (or your motivation fades away.
It is easy to say “I want to lose weight” but why? It is easy to say “I want to lose a dress size” but why? It is easy to say “I want to be fit and healthy” but why?
How would it FEEL to reach your goal? What does losing weight mean for you? Is it so that you can go shopping and go into any shop you like and buy anything you like? Perhaps you have been bullied as a child and you want to be a good role model for your children and you don’t want them to be “the fat kid” and be laughed at.
What does fit and healthy mean for you? Have you watched loved ones suffer from poor health and you don’t want to follow their footsteps?
Do you want things in life that your current state of health prevents you from achieving, experiencing?
What is your current lifestyle doing for your mental health, your energy levels, your confidence and to everyone around you?
What would it mean to you to feel happier and more positive and jumping out of bed motivated to start the day?
What would it mean to you to get dressed for a party or a date and feel AMAZING looking in the mirror?
What would it mean to you to be able to climb mountains, and go on adventures, or change careers, or travel during your retirement and be able to do anything you want without hesitation? And when you work out what you want, ask yourself:
Who is this person you are striving to be? Describe her in detail.
- How does it feel to be this person? Feel every emotion.
- How does this person act? Act like this person.
- How does this person think? Think like this person.
You will never be the person you want to be, if you are still acting and thinking like the person you are.
I don’t want you to run away from the person you are. But when treat yourself and live a life based on the person you want to be, with respect and so much worth, then it will just happen.
And when times are tough (which they will be), remind yourself of your WHY.
Because your why should be more powerful than an exhausting day, or whinging kids, or financial stress, or the never ending to do list.
And trust me, when YOU are looking after YOU, all of the hard stuff, doesn’t feel so hard anymore. Yes it is there, but you can cope with it better. It doesn’t destroy you and knock you down so hard that you don’t know if you can get back up again.
Set your goal. Define your why.
Identify the person you would be at your goal. Start living like that. Write down in your journal.
Why are you here? And who is the exact person you are striving to be? Always return to this on the days and moments where you question everything. It is powerful powerful stuff.